Actually, we’re going to challenge you to give something back to yourself this Christmas. Because you deserve it. And let’s face it, we’re all fantastic at selecting our own presents.
Life can be brilliant, but it can also be hard, and the holiday season can bring up issues that lay in waiting the rest of the year.
So we want to help you give yourself a gift that could change your life
Wondering what this has to do with your career?
The way you value yourself will have a huge impact on what you achieve – studies have shown again and again that people who feel positive and confident are more likely to persevere when problems arise, plus people who value themselves correctly are more likely to be paid more and given more opportunities in their jobs.
We’ve put together 5 tips that can help you build your self worth and make you feel great:
Self worth can be complex
The way you value yourself relies on two things – your self-esteem and your self-confidence.
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself – do you think about yourself in positive terms and like the person that you are.
Self-confidence refers to how competent you think you are and how much value you place on your abilities.
If you can learn to think well of yourself, you’ll have developed some excellent skills that will help you throughout your life. And you’ll probably be happier too.
What’s so good about self-confidence
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.” — Maxwell Maltz
- If you don’t believe in yourself, it can be hard for others to believe in you too
- You might not be able to handle criticism well and that can make life harder for you at school, work or home
- Fear can really limit your potential, and building your self-confidence will help you overcome your fears and be more successful
- It can help you achieve your goals
- Helps you make the right choices and stay out of trouble
5 tips to build your confidence
- Set yourself up to win
- Be realistic. Choose goals that are achievable. Challenging is great, impossible is not
- Keep a list of all your achievements (great for when you write your resume), looking back on it will remind you of what you’re capable of
- Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, it will become a habit and you’ll find yourself feeling better about approaching new tasks or projects
- When things don’t work out as planned, look at what you still got out of it, what you learned and how you could do things differently another time. We all learn through our mistakes
- Be kind and do nice things for other people
- We feel good about ourselves when we are able to help others
- Helping others can help you forget about your own troubles and be grateful for what you have instead
- Interaction helps you learn and the more you learn, the more confident you’ll feel about your abilities
- Smile at people when you pass them in the street, greet people and have a little chat with people you interact with, pay a compliment – these things make other people feel better and their reaction will make you happy too. When you’re happy you’ll find it easier to think positively about yourself
- Stop comparing yourself
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” — Theodore Roosevelt
You are unique – you’ve had a unique life, and you have a unique set of gifts, and it’s literally impossible to compare yourself to anyone else. Stop thinking about others on social media and wondering if they’re better than you, because they haven’t had your life or experiences.
Comparison leads to you thinking less of your own life and activities – that you’re missing out, that life is unfair and can it even lead to depression. So stop it! But how?
- Learn and avoid your triggers e.g. social media, certain people, going to a certain shop or mall
- Keep reminding yourself that what people show on the outside doesn’t always reflect what’s happening inside and focus on how you feel inside. Social media and relationships are not always a true reflection of what is happening in people’s lives
- Take the time to think about what you are grateful for in your own life, especially when you start comparing yourself or life to others and feel discontented
- Instead of comparing yourself to others, think in terms of what inspires you or what you admire about them. Aim to achieve those traits yourself, in this way comparison can become a positive motivator
- Question yourself
“If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself” – Jane Travis
Sometimes we are our own harshest critic. The things that you say to yourself in your head about the way you acted, the things you said or did can be really terrible. But are they right?
When you find yourself thinking poorly of yourself have a think about whether it’s truly deserved or not.
Imagine what you would tell a friend or loved one (even a stranger) if they had done the same thing, then apply that advise or those words to yourself, most of the time they will not be nearly as harsh
Acknowledge when you have let yourself down, equally acknowledge when you get something right or do something brilliant. If you are still struggling, speak to the people you trust most, ask them for their opinion. Then take on board what they say.
- Get out of your comfort zone
- The best way to conquer fears is to face them. So get used to saying YES and going for it
- If you’re offered a job take it – you can learn as you go, we all have to start somewhere
- If you’re given an opportunity to try a new activity – do it. You’ll only know what you’re capable of once you have a go and you might be pleasantly surprised about your abilities along the way. You’ll probably have fun trying too
- Find ways to put yourself in situations which will test what you think are your weaknesses – speaking in public, socialising with lots of people, certain skills – the more you try the more you’ll find yourself becoming confident in those areas
Have a very Merry Christmas from everyone at Study Work Grow & gift yourself with some extra self-worth.