How to Ask Someone for a Reference

When you’re doing up your resume, one of the key components employers will be looking for are your references or referees. They’re a great way to confirm your skills and experience and can help you get ahead of the pack.

So if you’re searching for your first job, or looking for a change, how do you ask someone for a reference or to be a referee for you? We’ve got some tips that might help.

Be respectful and polite

No matter who you’re approaching, whether it’s a former employer, teacher, or coach, it’s important to remember to be polite and respectful. A little bit of kindness can go a long way and means the person you approach is more likely to accept your request.

Choose the right person

Make sure your references or referees are credible and applicable to the job you’re applying for. If you already have a job, it’s best to approach your manager or boss first to ask for a reference. When thinking about asking a teacher to be a referee, pick a teacher who knows you well and can vouch for your skills and knowledge.

Explain what you’re after

Let the person know that you’re looking for a job and would appreciate their support as a referee or by writing a reference. Tell them a bit about the job you’re applying for and what kind of skills and experience could be relevant for them to highlight.

Ask for permission

If you’re going to put someone down as a referee on your resume, it’s always important to make sure you ask for permission. This means your referee can expect a phone call in advance and not get caught on the spot (and it’s the polite thing to do too). It’s also good to let the person know who might be contacting them.

If you’re refreshing your resume and want to use an old referee, always get in contact with them first to make sure they’re still comfortable being a referee for you.

Thank them

If the person agrees to be a referee or provide a reference, don’t forget to thank them for their help, and let them know that you appreciate their support. And if you get the job down the track, say thanks again!